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Disability Support Services
PO Box 1510
Pembroke, NC 28372

Phone/Voice: 910.521.6695
TTY: 910.521.6490

Location: D.F. Lowry Building, Room 107
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Reactions When Students Enter College

Most parents experience:

  • Adventurous feelings
  • Sense of loneliness
  • An openness to change
  • Independence
  • Depression

Adjustments, Concerns, and Transitions

Most parents are:

  • Having more free time
  • Responsible for fewer people at home
  • Re-establishing their own personal identity
  • Having separation anxiety from their student
  • Trying to feel a void
  • Relinquishing control
  • Adjusting to being left out of their student’s
    daily activities and decisions
  • Understanding that their student may not need
    as much help as before
  • Concerned of how their student will ascertain
    his/her independence
  • Realizing the student will be exploring new
    social and academic opportunities

Adjustment and Establishing New Relations

Most parents need to:

  • Encourage students to trust themselves by
    providing support and freedom
  • Promote students to establish new
    relationships and explore opportunities
  • Develop new interests of their own
  • Trust the student to function as a successful
    young adult
  • Guide rather than pressure their student
  • Allow for mistakes while understanding there
    will be ups and downs
  • Determine appropriate expectations and
    guidelines while being explicit
  • Offer advice when asked and listen
  • Support student’s problem solving skills rather
    than rushing to solve the problem
  • Realize the student’s life is his/her own
  • Acknowledge and accept student’s limits and
  • Expect change
  • Occasionally visit and write


Updated: Wednesday, January 18, 2012

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